That is a guest post by Elise, half of Positive World Travel. She’s a specialist on what it’s like traveling as a couple. In this article, she shares her advice on how best to keep your relationship functioning on the highway by dividing up responsibilities. NOTE: By 2016, their blog is no more active.
In a previous post, Anthony wrote about how exactly compromise and communication are fundamental factors in maintaining an effective travel relationship.
I also wrote about how exactly “me time” can do wonders for avoiding arguments and keeping the partnership fresh.
But there’s another important tip to bear in mind: making sure each partner has certain responsibilities on the highway.
In terms of planning for a trip and traveling as a couple, there are various tasks to execute when you travel. Questions constantly should be answered: Where will you stay? What visas do you will need? What currency is accepted? Who’s likely to make transport inquiries? Who’s likely to book flights?
Breaking up these tasks in early stages can make traveling together with your partner far easier and far less stressful when compared to a disorganized approach, providing you time to spotlight the thrills and experiences as opposed to the mundane and nitty-gritty areas of long-term travel.
Anthony and I learned from the get-go that it pays to learn who’s doing what on the highway. We both will have our very own little roles we undertake each day.
For instance, I now am the state key bearer for our room, this means I’m in charge of making sure our room is locked and that I’ve the key safely saved and on me always.
We spent too many nights in early stages during our trip getting the same conversation:
“Have you got the main element?”
“No, I thought you took it.”
“Well, I didn’t take it. It had been working for you of the table.”
“Where could it be then? I don’t own it.”
It’s a little role, but it’s a significant one nonetheless, and we save ourselves from engaging in fights.
When you’re traveling as a couple, breaking up the responsibilities of travel has other benefits. You can save considerable time and frustration in the event that you assign planning jobs when organizing your onward travel.
For instance, rather than both looking for cheap accommodation, one individual could be finding accommodation as the other can be determining transport.
This, subsequently, can save time and reduce conflict and stress. By breaking up the workload, you each have an individual focus instead of trying to handle everything simultaneously.
For example, Anthony manages booking and organizing all onward travel, whether overland or by plane, and I’m responsible for or researching and finding accommodation at our next destination. Both of us chosen these roles fairly in early stages.
Per month roughly into our trip we were finding ourselves being disorganized regarding transport and accommodation. I recall specifically, in Malaysia, we were traveling late during the night in to the town of Semporna. Ant had explained that he already had accommodation at heart.
However, whenever we finally got off the bus, Ant didn’t have a clue where the hostels were or ways to get to them (and, of course, there have been no tuk-tuk drivers around the corner!). The street was deserted aside from a few stray dogs. A heated argument ensued, and it wasn’t until much later that people finished up in a hostel room.
This only had to occur once for this to be decided that I’d maintain charge of finding accommodation on our trip.
When deciding who’ll undertake what roles and responsibilities, everything boils down to knowing your lover. You must have a knowledge of their strengths and weaknesses. I’m responsible for finding and researching accommodation because I’m proficient at it. While we do not plan too much into our trip, I enjoy be organized.
Anthony can’t stand hanging out online looking for places to remain and reading reviews. But me? I really like it! Anthony trusts that I’ll choose a good spot to stay, and he’s happy that he doesn’t want to do it himself.
What I’m bad at are directions. Do not have been. Getting from A to B hasn’t been a solid suit of mine.
In India a couple of years ago, Anthony bravely paid the map for your day as I insisted that I was fine in directing us through small towns and villages saturated in the north.
Four hours later (whenever we must have reached a town at that time), we were still walking slowly uphill. Anthony then asked for the map, and then announce that I have been leading us in the full total opposite direction!
Tired and completely fed up, we hitchhiked our in the past to the starting place, fuming silently in the automobile.
I also understand that Ant is way better with saving money whilst travelling. That’s his strength. He sorts out exchange rates and conversions and knows when better to exchange our money.
Of course, when you’re from the road, there could be occasions when these responsibilities change as your travels develop or things appear, but at least having a concept of who’ll do exactly what is a good start.
The main element to causeing this to be work has been consistent. Don’t chop and change on a regular basis or become lazy at what you’re both likely to do. It may appear to be being back at a vintage desk job, but being in keeping with tasks — even though traveling — only makes things easier.
But while breaking up jobs and dealing with different roles all makes travel easier, there’s one job that you need to still both do together: making decisions.
While compromising should come into play when coming up with decisions, don’t take the thought of divorce the jobs of happen to be the extreme and only have one individual make all of the important choices throughout your trip.
Remember, traveling as a couple is approximately working as a team and doing things together.
Balancing the workload, knowing your lover, and staying consistent can make your travels easier, happier, and more rewardin